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Repost from @lifewflo • WELCOME TO K|NK FOR BLAC

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WELCOME TO K|NK FOR BLACK FOLKS

This is a multi-part series dedicated to Black Folks’ introduction to k|nk and play!

@thekinkeducator and I came together on this wonderful project. We noticed that most k|nk posts were directed at non-black folks.

A lot of the time the non-black perspective left out intricacies of being black & our culture was being erased from k|nk all together.

In our posts we hope to revitalize how we look at kink. We hope to amplify Black K|nksters as well as give new ones more relevant information.

💁🏽‍♀️It’s our space too and we should have all the tools we need to engage in k|nk safely.

🙆🏽‍♀️To my non black k*nksters:
This is not ur space to dictate, correct, or silence.
Your job, right now, is to share this post, boost in the comments, and widen not only ur perspective but also the tiny space that Black k*nksters are pushed in to.

Overall, this post, as well as this page is a space for Black folks to come together.

🙇🏽‍♀️Black folks: Regardless of if you’re new or seasoned in k|nk, engage in seggs or not &/or want to learn/share

YOU ARE welcome here!
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Historic Legalization of Abortion in Benin #ProAb

Historic Legalization of Abortion in Benin

#ProAbortionLegislation
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Many people see pro abortion and instantly see red flags, but let’s get to the real of the abortion discussion.

We don’t get to decide for other people what’s best for them and what they can manage.
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It’s easy to sit on a moral high horse when you don’t actually have to deal with the consequences that you force on others.
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Health Minister Benjamin Hounkpatin estimated that unsafe abortions are responsible for 20% of maternal deaths nationwide.
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“In Benin, nearly 200 women die each year as the result of abortion complications,” said Minister of Health Benjamin Hounkpatin
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Self-induced abortions have been growing in Benin, especially among students in high school or university, and the average age of abortion recipients is 19.

(Via: Abortion Policies: Oman to Zimbabwe. United Nations Publications. 2001)
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Teenage pregnancy is also common in Benin and only about 12% of people use modern methods of contraception, according to the World Health Organization (WHO).
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In addition, Benin has a under 5 infant mortality rate of 90.3 per 1000 live births. Maybe people don’t want to birth children with such low rates of survival.
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The truth is there are many reasons people have abortions. The truth is making abortion illegal doesn’t stop abortions from happening. It’s stops people from receiving life saving care.
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#Abortion #ipreview #abortionrights #abortionsaveslives #abortionishealthcare #familyplanning #freedomofchoice #abortionaccess #reproductivejustice #reproductiverights #benin #abortionactivism

Words of Affirmation During sex _ Sometimes it j

Words of Affirmation

During sex
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Sometimes it just feels really good when someone toots your horn. Like yes beloved has me tf up!!!
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Remember just as much as you can enjoy the confidence boost your partner(s) can too! Don’t be greedy friend.
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There are thousands of way to make your partner feel special during sex but don’t underestimate the power of words. Even if you think they know just say it out loud. They may be needing some reassurance and you don’t even know it.
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Also different relationship structures will require different kinds of phrases. I gave some pretty generic phrases but folks in kinky or BDSM relationships may use a plethora of other kinds of phrases.
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What kinds of things turn you on during sex?
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#ipreview #wordsofaffirmation #sexytalk #loveoutloud #blacksex #blacksexuality #blackkink #blackkinkcommunity #kinkincolor #sexpositivity #sexpositiveculture #sexpositivefeminism #sexploration #bdsmlife #bdsmbrat #blackqueer

Emergency Contraception Weight Limitations _ I r

Repost from @blex_app • Where does your mind go

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Where does your mind go when you think of “My body, my choice”?⁠
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For us, it’s more than a slogan. It’s a commitment to ourselves to take control of our sexual health and to prioritize our sexual wellness.⁠
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In our latest blexBlog article, one of our favorite sex educators, @slipp3rywhenwet, shares what “my body, my choice” means to her.⁠
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Click their #linkinbio to read the full article now!⁠
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#blexapp #blexbox #blexblog #mybodymychoice #reproductiverights #reproductivejustice #reproductivehealth #sexualhealth #sexualwellness
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Hi check out the blog post I wrote for @blex_app !!!! Also go follow them. It’s a Black Owned sexual wellness app… I mean how could you not?

Thank you 🙏🏾 This post is for y’all! _ I

Thank you 🙏🏾

This post is for y’all!
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I started this journey May 6th, 2020 and I can not believe how much I’ve grown! I sincerely appreciate each and every one of y’all.
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I’m thankful for the share, comments, engagement, likes, follows, and input from everyone.
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You like me! You really like me!!! 🥺😂
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Let me know what topics you’d be interested in seeing! Dropping them in the comments or DM me.
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For those who would like to collab email me or shoot me a DM.
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I’m excited to see where else this journey will take us!
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Thanks again and I hope your day is fucking phenomenal! 🤟🏾
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#ThankYou #AppreciationPost #5000followers #5500 #SexEducator #BlackSexEducator #BlackCulture #BlackGirlMagic #BlackSexuality #SexEdForAll #InclusiveSexEd #LetsTalkAboutSex

Black Love Languages 🤎 Ways to say I love you

Black Love Languages 🤎

Ways to say I love you without saying I Love you 🤟🏾
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Think of all the ways your family, friends, and/or partners have showed you love. Think about how special and cared for those moments made you feel.
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When talking about love there is a cultural aspect that is sometimes left out.
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It’s important to highlight and preserve how we show love because it’s integral to our communities.
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Now these are just a couple. Different regions, countries, and cultures have their own Black ass ways to display affection. I support every single one of them!
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How have you seen love and affection displayed in your Black families, friendships, and communities?? Share them in the comments below.
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#blacklove #blackrelationships #blacksexeducator #blackfamilies #blackfriends #blackfriendship #blackcommunity #blacklivesmatter #protecttheculture

Repost from @psychandthecitybk • Updated the gra

Repost from @psychandthecitybk
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Updated the graphics of the original post so it’s easier to read. Thanks for the feedback.

This graphic is an updated, condensed version of some suggestions and experiences panelists graciously shared during a panel discussion called ‘Providing Affirming Care to Sex Workers: An Introduction to Healthcare Providers.’

I could not include all, as panelists provided so much amazing information and education. As always, providing sex workers affirming and competent care deserves a much more nuanced conversation than an Instagram slideshow, but it’s a start.

Thank you panelists for your candor and for helping build a better knowledge base for healthcare providers.

Tyra Allure (Dominque Jackson) at Miss Continental

Tyra Allure (Dominque Jackson) at Miss Continental, 2002

JOIN USSSS NOW!!!!

JOIN USSSS NOW!!!!

It’s Cuffin’ Season And unfortunately the hob

It’s Cuffin’ Season

And unfortunately the hobosexual are out and on the prowl. 🙄
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Typically scene viewed as women taking in couch surfing men and supporting them through their dysfunction. However the offender or the victim can be of any gender.
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How do you know if you’re dating a hobosexual? Well here are some clues.
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1) The relationship moves like Usain Bolt in a 100m dash. Seriously, you blink and all of a sudden you live together.

Most relationships take time to get to know each other. If you, like the girl from the FB group, met someone and in 3 days they’re hinting at living arrangements…RUN
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2) They always seem to be working on something but never really have any results. (Scammers gonna scam). You find yourself footing the bill or more than one occasion. But don’t get me wrong. I’ve also seen it where they seem put to get (flashing money, buying gifts, etc) af the beginning but it quickly begins to reveal it was all a facade.
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3) You find yourself changing your lifestyle to accommodate theirs.

Working more to foot the bill. Giving up space in your home so they can take over without pitching in.
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4) People in your life are trying to warn you of the red flags 🚩 🚩🚩. LISTEN! Hear me out your support system is there to….SUPPORT YOU! Let them!
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#ipreview #hobosexual #sexandrelationships #blacksexuality #blacksex #blacksexeducator #sexandmanipulation #cuffingseason #cuffinseason

It’s Not Thursday but I felt like a Throwback

It’s Not Thursday but I felt like a Throwback

Black Burlesque (or in Black Venacular: Shake Dancers)
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I love learning more and more about my erotic history. So often Black, and other people of color, are erased from history as if we were never even there.
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So of course I researched! All the work in the graphics is credited and is not my work. Please check out the source because they are sooooo fucking good!
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Black people, and in this case women, have been pivotal in shaping American culture so it’s about Damn time we pay homage to the legends that society chose to forget.

We remember.
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Look up famous Shake Dancers (also I will make a post for these legends specifically one day).
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Pay homage to your erotic self and the ancestors whose blood runs through you! Dance for the sake of dancing this week. Connect with your body. Ground yourself to your roots and your sensuality.

My page focuses primarily on Black kin but that doesn’t mean that other races/ethnicities don’t have ancestors that practices the erotic arts as well!
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Never let anyone take that from you. All aspects belong to you.
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Fuck respectability politics. Fuck self hate. Fuck the patriarchy. Fuck the haters. Do you boo! #l
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P.S. I had an amazing conversation with my nana about this time period (born 1950). She didn’t remember the phrase “shake dancer” but did tell me all about the hoochie coochie. I’m going to call my great grandmother tomorrow and ask her (born 1936). She’s a wild child so I know she’ll have tales. Research is so much more fun when you can connect the familial dots.
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Let me know if your family has any stories!!!!!!
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#ipreview #blackburlesque #blackrenaissance #shakedancer #hoochiecoochie #hoochie #hoochiemama #exoticdancers #blackhistory #blackherstory #harlemrenaissance #greatmigration #blackinamerica #blacksexuality #blacksexeducator #reclaimingourculture #youwillnoteraseus #eroticart #eroticdancing #erotichistory #blackdancers #blackdancersmatter #blackdancehistory #blackdancer

It’s spooky season bitches! What are y’all g

It’s spooky season bitches!

What are y’all going as for Halloween?
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From Twitter user @ reeedlightsss
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#kinktober #spookyseason #wlw #blackwlw ##blacksexuality #blacksexy #blacksexualitymatters #kinkincolor #blackkink #halloweencostume #halloween #halloweentime

CA NEW LAWS Stealing & Spousal Rape _ TW: Sexual

CA NEW LAWS

Stealing & Spousal Rape
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TW: Sexual Assault, Rape, Sexual Abuse
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Stealthing- “The state became the 1st to outlaw the act, adding it to its civil definition of sexual battery & giving victims the ability to sue their assailants for damages.” @NYT
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A study published in the National Library of Medicine in 2019 reported that 12% of women said that they had been a victim of stealthing. Another study that year found that 10% of men admitted to stealthing.
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“There are many survivors who do not want to see the person who hurt them in prison & could really use help covering medical debt or could use help having the resources to see a therapist,” Ms. Brodsky said.
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Marital rape in United States law, also known as spousal rape, is non-consensual sex in which the perpetrator is the victim's spouse. It is a form of partner rape, of domestic violence, & of sexual abuse. Today, marital rape is illegal in all 50 US states, though the details vary by state.
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Nebraska was the 1st state to outlaw marital rape, in 1975. By 1993 marital rape was a crime nationwide. Still, in the 1990s, most states continued to differentiate b/w the way marital rape & non-marital rape was viewed & treated.
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1 example of the marital rape distinction is the case of Jenny Teeson. In the process of divorcing her husband, in Minnesota, she discovered photos & videos of her husband raping her while she was unconscious. Teeson's husband had been drugging her w/his prescription sleeping medication & then assaulting her.
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Teeson's now ex-husband was initially charged w/a felony — 3rd degree criminal sexual conduct — but the charges were dropped the same day. Due to a legal loophole in MN law at that time, raping your incapacitated spouse was not illegal if you were married or cohabitating at the time.
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These legal loopholes aren’t uncommon. Many states have exceptions when it comes to spousal rape. Although technically illegal in the US, some states' archaic laws exclude situations where a spouse is unable to consent bc they are incapacitated. Incredibly, even if their partner drugged them, it's not considered "forcible" &, therefore, is not a criminal offense.
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Repost from @consentlabs • Whilst Consent Labs s

Repost from @consentlabs
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Whilst Consent Labs strongly believes in the affirmative and enthusiastic verbal consent model (‘an enthusiastic yes’) for those who are able to use it, we recognise its limitations for people who are non-speaking. However, the principles apply to non-speaking individuals as well, with a bit of pre-planning. Thank you to @disabilitydiaries_ for helping us with this important topic.
💡 Start the conversation before any sexual activity commences.
💡 Set up accessible non-speaking alternatives for terms typically used in verbal consent e.g. 'yes', 'no', and extra ones for safety e.g. 'I don't understand' or 'stop'
💡 Use the resources you have available to you! If one partner is speaking, this can help make ongoing communication easier during sexual activity.
🧑‍🎨: @emmaree.design

Throwback Thursday The Harlem Renaissance _ This

Throwback Thursday

The Harlem Renaissance
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This is a very pivotal moment in Black History. This was a time when Black American were identifying, for themselves, what it meant to be Black in America.
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The 1920-30s were exploding with creativity. African American music, dance, art, fashion, literature, and politics were all entering the mainstream!

(Then quickly appropriated, commodified, and stripped of their roots)
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Often erasure, but not to be forgotten, was the sexual revolution going on as well.
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Many popular queer icons dominated this era. This includes Langston Hughes, Gertrude “Ma” Rainey, Bessie Smith, Gladys Bentley, Bruce Nugent, A’Lelia Walker, Wallace Thurman, among many others.
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Bessie Smith used Blues as a way to express her sexual self.
“When you see two women walking hand in hand, just look em’ over and try to understand: They’ll go to those parties have the lights down low — only those parties where women can go.”
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It wasn’t just queer sexual awakenings. Prostitution had a major foothold in the city as well.
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While Black women were discovering their sexual freedoms they were also trying to gain economic freedom as well.
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Unfortunately, prostitutes were the poorest and cheapest around the region. They were also heavily targeted by anti prostitution legislation. (Surprising to absolutely no one.)
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This was both a time of unprecedented freedom and of secrecy and restrictions. Finding success and opportunities in the North didn’t eliminate racism, sexism, homophobia, or whorephobia. However, the revolution that began then was the catalyst for revolutions to come.
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#ipreview #harlemrenaissance #blackhistory #lgbthistory #blacksex #blacksexuality #blacklgbt #blacksexworkersmatter #blacksexeducator #throwbackthursday #sexwork #marainey #bessiesmith #langstonhughes #brucenugent #blacklegends #blackicons

Just a few clips from this past weekends rally. Un

Just a few clips from this past weekends rally. Unfortunately I was pretty busy and didn’t get to take a lot of photos/videos.
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I hope y’all could attend a rally in your areas!
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Action items to carry on the fight
•Volunteer with your local abortion fund/clinic or reproductive justice orgs
•Donate Donate Donate
•Learn about what these abortion restrictions mean for marginalized communities
•Have honest conversations about abortion with your peers
•Keep up with the National conversation on abortion bans
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#abortionrights #abortionishealthcare #abortion #abortolegal #bansoffourbodies #reproductiverights #reproductivejustice

Sexual Tension _ Sexual tension happens when peopl

Bans Off Our Bodies Rally for Abortion Justice _

Bans Off Our Bodies

Rally for Abortion Justice
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Tomorrow, October the 2nd, there will be a nationwide rally against abortion injustices!!
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There have been a litany of abortion restrictions passed and attempted across the country in recent years and we have to fight back!
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Most recently, the SB8 decision that happened in Texas. The Supreme Court turned its back on the legacy of Roe v Wade by allowing abortion to become virtually inaccessible in the state of Texas when it declined to block the 6 week abortion ban.
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Many states across the country are what is known as “Trigger States”. This means that in the case that Roe v Wade is overturned abortion would immediately become illegal within their borders.
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This is important because the SC has decided to hear arguments in the Mississippi 15 week ban case. With an overwhelming bench of conservatives the fate of safe and legal abortions is at risk.
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It is important to remember that this is t just a women’s issue. This is an everyone issue. We are all affect by restrictive policies on reproduction.
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Firstly women aren’t the only ones who have abortions. Secondly, people who have abortions didn’t impregnate themselves. Partners have just as much to lose from these decisions.
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However these still aren’t the only ones affected. Families are affected, church groups are affected, businesses are affected, etc etc etc.
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So make sure you show up and support the movement! Tell your friends and loved ones. Call others in to action. Boost all information you see in regards to this event. Most importantly understand it doesn’t end tomorrow. The fight continues and we should all see this through.
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*****Please follow all COVID protocols for your local rally.
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#ipreview #bansoffourbodies #mybodymychoice #abortionrights #abortionaccess #abortionban #abortionishealthcare #abortionlaw #abortionsupportnetwork #reproductiverights #reproductivehealth #reproductivejustice #repro #reproductiverightsarehumanrights #reproductivefreedom #reproductivejusticeadvocate #socialjustice #economicempowerment #economicjustice #racialjustice #disabilityrights

Aftercare Impact Play Edition _ All sex should in

Aftercare

Impact Play Edition
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All sex should include aftercare! But oftentimes we don’t know what to do for specific acts.
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Here’s your guide to beginners impact play aftercare!
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The biggest component is ALWAYS communication. You really want to check in on how everyone is doing as well as see where adjustments may need to be made.

This is also the time to ask what your partner(s) wants prioritized during aftercare and not just what you assume or think is best for them.
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Also make sure to tend any wounds. Ice any bruises and bandage and clean any cuts! The last thing we want is an infection or unintended prolonged pain.
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Keep some meds (or whatever you use for pain relief) handy. You may or may not need them.
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Remember the mental needs just as much (often more) care as the physical. Be sure to make your partner feel safe, supported, and cared for. Just because they possibly like being degraded during sex doesn’t mean they enjoy degradation in their day to day life.

Impact play may be difficult for some to process because of racial or historical context. Though they may receive gratification from it they may have a difficult time mentally grappling with it.
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I didn’t put this on the slide but STRETCH THOSE MUSCLES. You just did a workout. Now it’s time to cool down. This means for the person who caused the impact and the person who received it. Shake off that arm. Wiggle out those legs.
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Do you enjoy impact play? What are your aftercare tips?
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#aftercare #aftercaretips #aftercareisimportant #aftercareiskey #selfcare #selfcareishealthcare #sexinfo #sexinformation #sextips #justthetip #blacksex #blacksexuality #blacksexeducator #blackkink #kinknoir #kinkincolor #kinkcommunity #kinkpositive #kinkpositivity

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